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What Have You Done For Yourself Lately?

Remember that song, “What have you done for me lately?” by Janet Jackson. My take on that is “What have you done for yourself lately?”

It’s all about personal responsibility when it boils down to it. Don’t get me wrong. I love it that my husband spoils me rotten, calls and texts me a dozen times a day, and supports me 100% in everything I do. But always looking outside of ourselves for what we need in life leads to disappointment. It’s important to nurture our own dreams and take care of our own needs on some level.

I can guarantee you that I’d have that angry look on my face like Janet Jackson does in the video if my husband started ignoring me, but the core of my world would not collapse. Personal responsibility builds personal resiliency. And we all need personal resiliency to get us through the tough times whether in a relationship, business downturn, or just a bad mood.

So what have I done for myself lately? This weekend I pulled out one of my old manuscripts and decided to get serious about it. Bet you didn’t know that I’m a closet fiction writer! Yep! I’ve had all the well-known reasons for ignoring my hobby for years. Busy raising kids, two jobs, poor health…I could go on, but that’s not my point.

It’s a sad thing when you let a busy life bury your fun. And that IS my point. You have to take that responsibility to fit time in for what you love to do. I’m still very busy, but I shifted things a bit to include a few minutes of writing every day.

Here’s how my old thinking worked. I’m so tired…I have too much to do for the family…I’ll never finish much less publish it…why waste the time…

Here’s how my thinking has shifted as I’ve taken more responsibility for my own happiness. I feel more energetic when I write…you can make your own sandwich, honey…finishing is not the goal, enjoying the writing is the goal…taking time for my version of fun is an essential way to spend my time…

Take the time to look at some of those hobbies or dreams you’ve put aside. Adding them back into your life just might create the energy you need for other successes in your life.

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45 Responses to What Have You Done For Yourself Lately?

  1. I totally agree Teresa! You have to make time for fun and love. So excited you are working on your book! Keep it up girl!
    Donna Merrill´s last blog ..Overload? Take Time To Enjoy!

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    Teresa Reply:

    I will definitely keep this one going! I am so content and relaxed when I write!

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  2. Great question you pose here for others. What have you done for yourself lately. Love It!

    Thank you for the reminder that we do need to take our personal time too.

    Bill

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    Teresa Reply:

    It’s too easy to neglect ourselves if we’re not careful. Ask any parent, entrepreneur…wait a minute…everyone is so busy! We just need a reminder here and there.

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  3. Teresa,
    Sounds like you’ve re-discovered a dormant passion. You have all your experiences in life to share through your words. I look forward to hearing more as you progress in your writing,
    Val :)
    Val Wilcox´s last blog ..Clarify the Right Relationship with Yourself

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    Teresa Reply:

    Thanks, Val. So far the main plot is laid out. Now for details!

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  4. Dear Teresa,

    Thank you for the wise inspiration to come out of the closet and play!
    I felt like you when I realized that I have not allowed my true self to come out of the closet and be! So I did!
    Looking forward to reading your book.
    Way to go!
    Infinite love and gratitude to you,
    Venus :)
    Venus :) ´s last blog ..Who Are You Really? (part 3)

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    Teresa Reply:

    LOL! You give me hope that I will actually finish one day!

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  5. Excellent post Teresa! You are right that you have to take 100% responsibility for yourself first, and most important, that you must also make time for yourself. It was so great to read about your fiction manuscript that you’d started years ago and have never finished because life got in way ~ I too have a fiction novel that I started many years ago and had only completed about 2/3 of it, and the the thought of picking it up and finished it comes across my mind every now and then. As I grown a little older and wiser, I now truly believe that finding the time to make things that are important to YOU a priority really should be #1. Thanks for sharing ;-)
    Christine Casey´s last blog ..Success in Network Marketing is all about Building Relationships

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    Teresa Reply:

    Another closet writer! Join me by working on your book a few minutes a day. It’s a lot of fun!

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  6. Well done old girl.(just a figure of speech Teresa) It is so important to feed yourself. Without it you wither and become a muted version of the destiny reserved for you. Go claim it and bring some of it back to us so we can enjoy even more your talented life.
    Nelson´s last blog ..Stories in My Mind

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    Teresa Reply:

    Thanks, Nelson! Wither…that’s a good way to put it. I didn’t even realize I felt withered until I started writing again. Now I feel like the flowers after a good rain – refreshed and ready to smile for the world!

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  7. Altruism is no nobler than selfishness.

    There needs to be that balance there. In fact, one could say they find the greatest levels of servitude when they’ve first been slightly selfish.
    Paul Klaszus´s last blog ..The Number One Phrase I Use to Push Through Anything to Accomplish Everything

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    Teresa Reply:

    Very philosophical, Paul! Balance is so important!

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  8. Great reminder! We definitely need to make the time to take care of ourselves. This is something that I have struggled with for a long time but over the last several years I have been learning the importance of self-care and pursuing my passions and dreams!
    Kevin M.´s last blog ..Don’t ignore slow leaks!

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    Teresa Reply:

    Excellent, Kevin! Glad to hear you’ve succeeded in this area!

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  9. Great post. Enjoying the writing is the key. I am a compulsive writer. Soon I will have enough blog posts stashed away that I could automate my blog for weeks. I enjoy it. Can’t wait to hear more about your book.

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    Teresa Reply:

    Wow! Automating sounds great! I still write posts like I did when I was on a newspaper staff. Hurry, hurry there’s a deadline! I think it’s time to shift my thinking!

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  10. This was really good. I believe we have to look out for ourselves before we can help others.I look forward to reading more of what you decide to write about.
    Beverly Monical´s last blog ..Network Marketing or MLM’s- Are They A Scam???

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    Teresa Reply:

    Absolutely true, Beverly! The well runs dry and we have nothing left to give if we don’t take care of ourselves!

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  11. Absolutely, Teresa, you come first. It is tried and true even from Biblical teachings. Only after we have satisfied our basic needs can we truly be effective helping others. Thanks my friend for posting this good content.
    Nelson´s last blog ..“Top Cat Club”

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    Teresa Reply:

    Thanks Nelson! I never thought of writing as a basic need of mine but have discovered it really is!

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  12. Teresa,

    Here is something else we have in common. I love to write and years ago I started to write a book but just like you said I let life get in the way and kill that dream, but writing articles has filled that void somewhat. I always take time out for myself at least once a week, and just go someplace and have some fun, I love going new places and learning new things totally relaxing and plain out FUN!
    Lori Robertson´s last blog ..Ask And It Is Given – There Is No Such Thing As NO!

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    Teresa Reply:

    I think we should take one of those trips we’ve talked about and sit on a beach somewhere and write. What do you think?

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  13. Ya know…slowing down and focusing on the present seems to be a theme of the day as I read various blogs today. Maybe someone is trying to tell me something, although I’ve really come a long way in the past year or so, learning to truly live the present and not overly concern myself with the outside world. As you say, I am responsible for myself, and myself alone. That may sound selfish, but as even the Bible says, “love others AS you love yourself”. Unless we take time to slow down, listen to our inner voice (which is always a source of positive energy and inspiration), enjoy the present (the past is gone and the future will never get here — it’ll always be now), then we have absolutely nothing to give to others.

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  14. Too many people think it’s selfish to take care of yourself first, but we don’t, we have little or nothing to offer others. The Bible even tells us that we are to love others AS we love ourselves…..not MORE. There’s an awful lot of wisdom in those few words. Thanks for putting a new light on them!

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    Teresa Reply:

    Thanks for adding your insight, Steve! I love it when everything so obviously points me in one direction. Hard to miss the lesson that way!

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  15. I love your post Teresa. I am at a similar point in my life and to read about how you got back to your passion. When you said ” you can make your sandwich yourself, honey” a big smile made me feel happy. And I want to smile more often …. when I write, spin at my spinning wheel ….

    Thank you,
    Leelja
    Leelja´s last blog ..SUCCESS MANIFESTORS

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    Teresa Reply:

    Glad I could bring you a smile, Leelja! You really spin! I’ve always wanted to give that a try!

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    Leelja Reply:

    Yes, I love to spin. It is meditative and I should free some time for doing it at least twice a week and experience the healing power of it. After a while spinning I am much more balanced and relaxed, ready for something new. :)

    If you want to talk about how to start, most of the time you can get me in Skype lele2847. I am glad to help and would love to chat about spinning.
    Leelja´s last blog ..TEA OR DISH-WASHING-WATER?

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  16. Hey Teresa,

    Great Post; I keep singing that song in my head now!! I’ts amazing how much we give up when we are working hard. And it’s so easy to forget to do things that we enjoy doing!

    Enjoy working on your manuscripts!

    Sue
    Sue Collier´s last blog ..Generic Marketing System ~ Build Your MLM Quickly Online!!

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    Teresa Reply:

    Thanks, Sue! It’s a fun song to have running through your head. And I love it that they make up in the end of the video!

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  17. I love this post, Teresa! I was singing Janet’s song right when I read your title…before I even read that you were really referencing it! :)

    Good for you for taking the time to dive in to one of your greatest passions, that is definitely essential for fulfillment in life! Balance really is key.

    I love what you said ~ Personal responsibility builds personal resiliency. So, so true! Way to go on taking responsibility for your happiness! Everyone benefits from that! :)
    Beth Allen´s last blog ..The 5 Major Pieces to the Life Puzzle

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    Teresa Reply:

    Such a good point, Beth! Everyone benefits!

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  18. You know we deprive the world of something very vital when we are not being ourselves and are trying to be something or someone we are not nor were never meant to be! We are doing everyone and ourselves a great disservice.
    The hardest part for many people is to work out where their passion lies and then give themselves permission to live it!
    Glad you are finding yours and looking forward to reading your fiction!
    You go Girl!!
    Sandhan´s last blog ..Begin with the End in Mind

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    Teresa Reply:

    Very well put, Sandhan. I couldn’t agree more.

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  19. Hi Teresa,

    Boy, Does this ever hit the nail on the head for me! Pretty much, my answer is nothing! I had all the excuses before and now my excuse is work besides. I really have to take your words to heart and focus on ME! It is great to have wonderful online friends to remind me of these things. :)

    Fondly,

    Mentor Mama

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    Teresa Reply:

    Hi Mentor Mama!
    It’s great to have you as a friend also! Let me know about the things you decide to do for yourself!

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  20. Aloha Teresa,

    I love that you went back to writing and having fun! That’s the real secret isn’t it? Do you what you love and love what you do, and everything else will flow in your life.

    I used to hear people say when your work is play and your play is work, you know you’re doing the right thing! It took me a while, however, once I really got that concept, I can say that that is what I do today and that’s why it’s so much fun! I feel like I play almost all day!

    Thank you for your transparency! It’s so refreshing!

    Much love & aloha,
    Kellie :)
    Kellie Hosaka´s last blog ..If You Could Rewind or Fast Forward Your Life- Would You

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    Teresa Reply:

    Hi Kellie! You’re 100% right! The more I move in the direction of play for work the happier I am.

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  21. Hi Teresa,
    I am glad to hear that you are taking time out for what supports your well being.

    Thank you for writing this article.
    I am sure a lot of people will benefit from being reminded that self care is important,
    and it will benefit others in the long run.

    Love and Light
    from
    Yorinda

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    Teresa Reply:

    Thanks for stopping by Yorinda!

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  22. I could not agree with you more that it is important to take a little time for yourself. Just to recharge and refresh yourself so you are ready to take on the world. Thanks for sharing this!
    angela´s last blog ..A Cool Free Seo Tool For Your Blog Posts and Articles

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  23. Hi Teresa!

    I look forward to getting acquainted with you! What you have written about ‘personal responsibility’ is amazing – so very true! I know of some in my life who I hope will be grasping that concept! :-)

    It is up to us to take responsibility for our own personal happiness, and I believe that comes with really identifying with our Life Purpose – a topic that for the time being is very near and dear to me at this time of my life.

    I look forward to learning so much from you!

    ~ Beth
    Beth Wiles´s last blog ..Intentions for the Entrepreneur- Know Your Life Purpose and Plan

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    Teresa Reply:

    Thanks, Beth! I enjoyed your post as well. I love all the new friends I meet through blogging!

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